Marriage Advice From Your Favorite Divorce Lawyer, Part 7
I’ve been a divorce attorney for over 22 years. I’ve been married for almost 15 years.
This is what I know. (Click here for Part 6, Part 5, Part 4, Part 3, Part 2, and Part 1)
Tough Out the Baby Years
I am particularly reluctant to take cases where the couple have children under 5. These are the baby years. And they are TOUGH.
In China, You Can’t Divorce After Baby
Chinese law states: “The husband is not allowed to apply for a divorce when his wife is pregnant or within one year after the birth of a child.”
Sleep Deprivation is VERY Hard
The period after childbirth is sacred. In Chinese culture, there is even a 30-day period where the mother cannot cook, clean, or wash her hair. This is called “doing the month” (translated from Chinese).
I don’t believe divorce should be happening when one or both of the parties are physically and emotionally not up to par. Divorce is incredibly hard.
Child Custody Will be Difficult
The newborn years do not make easy parenting plans. This is because a newborn baby is likely still nursing, and nursing requires the baby to be around the mother to be successful. A step-up parenting plan would be necessary if separation has to happen at this time.
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