Closing Thoughts on 2019 and Difficult Times

Closing thoughts on 2019 and difficult times: So grateful!  As 2019 comes to an end, I wanted to take the opportunity to thank all of my clients, colleagues, friends and family for helping me weather a very rough year.  As many of you know, in the past 5 years (since I moved to Pasadena), I have abandoned my stressful old ways of litigation and settled into what I believe is my calling – peacemaking.  Although my practice still consists of some litigation cases, I have cut down on many of the toxic elements (I refer out 90% of litigation calls – thank you litigation friends for taking these cases!).  There have been many growing pains,but my identity has remained intact, and I have strong conviction this is my calling and purpose.  I hope you will read the many articles I spend time writing on Mediation.

If You’re Going Through Hell, Keep Going

For those of you going through a divorce, my message is this: If you’re going through hell, just keep going.  It feels like the end of the world, but remember, it is ALWAYS the darkest before the sun comes out.  If you have children, please focus on them.  In a blink of an eye, they will be 18 and out of the house.  Do NOT waste any time litigating, and fighting.  Engage the services of a good mediator.  Mental health professionals.  Friends.  They are out there.  There are people out there who are willing to help you.  Find the good-hearted attorneys.  Run far and fast from the pitbulls.  They will cause nothing but further pain.

2019 Trials and Tribulations

2019 has been a trying time for a lot of us.  My family has weathered HUGE storms.   We were the victims of false accusations which amounted to defamation per se.  But instead of fighting back, I prayed about it, and prayed about it, and all our friends and family stood by us.  I want to thank you for my “army of friends and lawyers”.  Each and every one of you took the time to carry us through.  It’s good to know that when the bad guys attack one of us, there is an ARMY of us fighting back.  None of us are ever safe from “bad guys”.  But it is how we handle the trials and tribulations that help us mature.  EACH and every one of are better people from our challenges we overcome.

Read the Book of James

Closing thoughts on 2019… One of favorite books in the Bible is James.  “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Closing thoughts on 2019 and difficult times: we all go through tough times.  (We just don’t post them on Facebook).  I know it’s my purpose to help people transition through these tough times, and to help them persevere.  It’s a privilege to live my true purpose and calling.  Goodbye, 2019!  You have built a lot of character. As my husband says, there really are no BAD YEARS.  Just bad days.

Ring in 2020!