Peaceful Goodbye

peaceful goodbye

Peaceful Goodbye

If you are going through a divorce, you may be tempted to hire an attorney to “destroy your ex”.  This is natural, because emotions run high in a divorce and separation.

Never Make Decisions Based on Your Emotions

Emotions change.  You were once in love.  Happy!

Then you were left when you should have been loved.  Angry!  Sad!

There are so many reasons you shouldn’t make decisions based on emotions, but the number 1 reason is that EMOTIONS change.

Divorce Doesn’t Have to Be Ugly Like the Movies

Ever seen Kramer v Kramer?  War of the Roses?  Those are movies.  There is a lot of bad behavior  – examples of what NOT to do.

Those people are actors.

You can’t just walk off a movie set.  The decisions you make will impact your future.


The court system doesn’t dole out revenge.  Whatever you believe the Judge will do to your ex is not likely to happen.  Nobody cares about lazy exes.  Overspenders.  People hiring prostitutes and giving you STD’s.  Cheaters.  Jerks.

It’s divorce court!  The judges already KNOW all this.  Before 10 am, they’ve already had their fair share of “he said, she said”.  Our culture has an obsession with divorce as punishment.

Try Divorce Mediation

Fight the urge to hire pitbull lawyers.  There are many, many excellent lawyers out there who have been practicing family law for decades. They can best tell you – NOBODY wins in divorce.

Try divorce mediation.

Peaceful goodbyes take strong people.  You will hurt for a while, but you do not need to prolong the pain.

I leave you with this poem.

The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

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