Never Ambush Ex With Divorce Papers

Olivia Wilde gets served

Never Ambush Ex With Divorce Papers/Photo by Katerina Holmes

Olivia Wilde Was Allegedly Ambused with Custody Papers by Jason Sudeikis

Jason and Olivia have two (2) children: Otis (8) and Daisy (5).  The couple were engaged, but never married.

At CinemaCon in Las Vegas on Tuesday, Olivia was handed an envelope marked “Personal and Confidential” while she was on stage discussing her upcoming film “Don’t Worry Darling.”

People Magazine confirmed that Olivia was served custody papers by ex-fiancé Jason Sudeikis.

Jason Sudeikis Allegedly Didn’t Know

“Mr. Sudeikis had no prior knowledge of the time or place that the envelope would have been delivered as this would solely be up to the process service company involved and he would never condone her being served in such an inappropriate manner,” the source continues.

A representative for Sudeikis did not immediately respond to PEOPLE’s request for comment; a rep for Wilde has not commented.


Unless there is a legitimate reason for you NOT to inform your ex, I am always in favor of discussing separation (mandatory counseling!) and alerting them that papers will be filed and forthcoming.

There is nothing worse than being “surprised” by divorce/custody papers in the middle of your work day.  Or learning about it through social media.

Use a Process Server ONLY When Necessary

Most normal people don’t avoid service.   If you and your ex have discussed it, one of you can file papers and the other can “sign” for the papers instead of being SERVED.

I am in favor of writing a non-threatening letter to accompany the legal papers, and attaching a Notice of Acknowledgement of Receipt.

There is no reason to waste money on process servers.  Ambush service is so humiliating, and is not necessary.

Approach your separation/divorce as a “restructuring’ intead of utter destruction.

Divorce Papers Should Be the LAST Step, Not the First

Most people race to divorce attorneys wanting to end the process as fast as possible.  Here is the secret: Divorce papers are the last step.  There is a lot involved prior to it being final – physical, emotional, financial, psychological.  Just because you are divorced on paper doesn’t mean you are ready to move on.

Restructure needs to happen – it takes time.

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